The rightwingers are frothing and foaming at the mouth, but the train has left the station. It's just a question of when the Supremes will make a ruling that extends marriage to the whole country. I'm thinking that will be 2016.
It does seem inevitable, doesn't it? I remember my first NY Gay Pride in 1985. It was incredible then just to be OUT. It was still an era of "free love". Now, we are going to feel pressured to get married!
Frank: Don't feel any pressure; just feel free to enjoy the fact that you finally can choose for yourself. These are such fascinating times. Same-sex marriage in places like Iowa and Idaho, but still outraged reactions to a kiss.
You do realize don't you that if you aren't married, when one of you dies the widower won't be able to get soc. sec. survivor benefits on the other - and you may have to pay a hefty tax when the survivor inherits the house and all. Just something to think about. But surely you guys have already consulted your attorney and financial planner about these things?
Yes, Russ, we know the risks. Fortunately, (unfortunately) our estate is not does not come close to the value to be subject to inheritance taxes at the state or federal level. It may be subject to income tax, however. Right now, our main benefit for not being married is, and has been, health insurance. Connecticut is generous to its low income seniors and Leon has so many business taxes and expenses he gets tax credits is on Affordable Care. I have to do some serious arithmetic to figure out whether we can afford getting married right now. However we are considering it, no matter how it may effect us. You know, growing up gay, marriage was not something even remotely on our radar. Somehow it still seems a little odd.
Growing up Italian-American Catholic, weddings were all white lace and tuxedos, churches and banquets, tarantellas and mounds of Italian cookies, bouquets and garters, honeymoons and babies.
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The rightwingers are frothing and foaming at the mouth, but the train has left the station. It's just a question of when the Supremes will make a ruling that extends marriage to the whole country. I'm thinking that will be 2016.
I've pretty much given up trying to keep track. It is astounding - the last two years have been one of remarkable progress in true equality.
I remember being at NYC Gay Pride the year that NY got marriage equality. It was a massive party. Holy crap!
It does seem inevitable, doesn't it? I remember my first NY Gay Pride in 1985. It was incredible then just to be OUT. It was still an era of "free love". Now, we are going to feel pressured to get married!
Frank:
Don't feel any pressure; just feel free to enjoy the fact that you finally can choose for yourself. These are such fascinating times. Same-sex marriage in places like Iowa and Idaho, but still outraged reactions to a kiss.
Pennsylvania? Now I guess that takes care of all the Northeast States.
You do realize don't you that if you aren't married, when one of you dies the widower won't be able to get soc. sec. survivor benefits on the other - and you may have to pay a hefty tax when the survivor inherits the house and all. Just something to think about. But surely you guys have already consulted your attorney and financial planner about these things?
Yes, Russ, we know the risks. Fortunately, (unfortunately) our estate is not does not come close to the value to be subject to inheritance taxes at the state or federal level. It may be subject to income tax, however.
Right now, our main benefit for not being married is, and has been, health insurance. Connecticut is generous to its low income seniors and Leon has so many business taxes and expenses he gets tax credits is on Affordable Care. I have to do some serious arithmetic to figure out whether we can afford getting married right now. However we are considering it, no matter how it may effect us.
You know, growing up gay, marriage was not something even remotely on our radar. Somehow it still seems a little odd.
Growing up Italian-American Catholic, weddings were all white lace and tuxedos, churches and banquets, tarantellas and mounds of Italian cookies, bouquets and garters, honeymoons and babies.
I try to imagine what our wedding will be like.
Leave off the babies, and you're good to go! Grin.
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